
The Dutch have a word for a feeling that encapsulates “finding happiness in someone else’s happiness”: Gunnen. This would be the opposite of a German word: Schadenfreude — a pleasure derived from another’s misfortune. Children as young as two years old have been observed to enjoy mishaps of those around them. Tom and Jerry, Roadrunner, The Pink Panther and many other kids’ toons use Schadenfreude as their comedy engine. The use of the word Schadenfreude had really taken off (exponentially) around the 90’s. The use of the Gunnen, on the other hand, have been flat since the turn of the previous century. We can speculate on what this means that we would rather pleasure ourselves with other’s tragedies than get joy from seeing people happy, but that’s not really here nor there. I’d rather live in the Gunnen world than Schadenfreude one, but perhaps cartoons would be of poorer quality. I often write that reading books helps develop empathy. I’m witnessing this development now first hand as I observe my granddaughter blossom her full repertoire of feelings. She is about to turn four. We read a lot together, and she demands that I tell stories “from my own mouth” every…






